Busty Black Girl Talks w/ Dafroambiance

Collaborating with Damilola of dafroambiance to have an interactive discussion on our experiences and tips on having and embracing big breast.

From the B TO BIG?

SAABIRAH:  I’m on the bus, on my way home and I look down at my chest, randomly. Which then sparks a bunch of thoughts….

£22 for one bludclart bra?  

Where did you guys even come from?

It honestly feels like this all happened overnight. There was no real build up, I don’t even remember buying training bras. I felt as if I was forced into the 30B+ crew without any training, just left to figure it all out. I missed out on a couple of letters in the alphabet. Went from; B to D to F to G.

DAFRICANLADY: I was on my way to West End with a close friend of mine and just for the fun; we decided to get our breasts measured at House of Fraser. Mind you, I had on a 36B sized bra at the time. So when the shop assistant came with 30H, I screamed! I didn’t even know size 30 existed. My head couldn’t get around the letter H. I was so shocked that I went to two other stores to double check. The matter didn’t even help when popular retail stores didn’t have my new bra size as part of their collection. Bravissmo became my best friend.

TIP: Get your breast measure every 6 months and more often if your weight fluctuates. I recommend going to more than one retail store on the same day.

Cleavage and the Wardrobe

SAABIRAH:  Covering up was the easiest way for me to deal with this sudden growth. I called myself a tomboy, when in fact I just didn’t want to draw any attention to my body. I was comfortable in baggy clothes.For a long time I wouldn’t wear clothes that clung to my body or anything that showed too much cleavage. The annoying thing is, a lot of the time it doesn’t matter what I wore, my chest was still visible.

DAFRICANLADY: I was definitely one to cover up my cleavage. I don’t think wearing baggy clothes helped. My breasts are still out there with the little waist I have.

I think it is all about the type of bra you wear with what outfit. Working in a church and a school meant that I had to reduce distraction by learning what tops were good at hiding my breasts and what types of bra will deceive people of it’s actual size.

TIP: Sometimes It just takes a blazer to minimise your chest size. I also recommend underwire for anyone above a C cup and certainly no pads! I remember a uni friend of mine asked if I had melons underneath my top.

Male Attention

SAABIRAH:  The looks were obvious and the comments were uncomfortable. It felt like my body wasn’t even mine. No matter what I wore, it’s obvious that I’m top heavy. Even now the looks make me feel extremely uncomfortable.

DAFRICANLADY: With me, I still think I am sensitive to looks and comments. At times comments and looks can affect my mood for the rest of the day. However, there are funny times: imagine someone driving and literally stopping in the middle of the road to shout “TWINS” at me. I didn’t even know what they meant until an hour later. Yes I can be a bit slow like that.

DAFRICANLADY: It’s probably easier said than done but we need to remember comments will never stop. Even if we didn’t have boobs at all – you will still have comments coming. It’s all about embracing your features from the sizes of the breasts to the stretch marks. I ask myself would I save money to have a reduction in breast size? I know I wouldn’t. I may feel apprehensive about not wearing enough clothes to cover up. But I’ve learnt to love my breasts. I wouldn’t change them. Just the pervy looks I get at them.

SAABIRAH: I have definitely thought about a reduction and lift. But then where do I draw the line with surgery that isn’t medically necessary?.

Becoming A Woman

SAABIRAH: I wasn’t ready to be a woman and deal with “big girl problems”. I didn’t get to choose if I wanted to be seen as feminine. Having a what is deemed as a Woman’s body at such a young age meant that I had to grow up quicker. I had to be aware of what having a large bust means to some people, specifically men.

DAFRICANLADY: The more I think about this topic, the more I think of how much parents need to prepare and inform their children on how to look after their health and well-being. My mother, told me about periods from a really young age and at 10 when I got it. I was ready. My mother did her best for me to be honest and as a first born I grew up really fast. But I don’t think I was mentally prepared for the dramatic physical change that occurred almost over night. I used to be run tracks and all of a sudden, thighs, breasts and bum came out of nowhere.

The biggest challenge in regards to becoming a woman was dressing up appropriately, modestly and still looking the part. It was a skill I had to develop fast in addition to the gym, healthy eating – it became a lifestyle.

TIP: My mum would create fill in the gaps sheets and different activities to encourage us to understand our bodies. I remember doing a work sheet on anatomy and also the female reproductive system. This is important to teach to both men and women.

Thank You Damilola for collaborating with me for my Black History Month series #BHMWithSaabirah, this won’t be the last time we collaborate that’s for sure. Make sure you follow Dafroambiance and her amazing Black King Series.

It would be interesting to have other sisters get involved in this conversation, please comment below, share your experiences and tips would be great also.

As we are on the topic of breasts, Damilola thought it would be a great idea to add this short video we saw on twitter. A great video on checking for lumps in our breasts.

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