Excited to be doing my first blogger collaboration with the beautiful Sabrina – Curlyfrosista.com.
Trigger warning: There is talk of medication and overdose in this blog post.
Hey dolls, I’m Sabrina your CurlyFroSista. I run a lifestyle blog sharing reviews on beauty and hair products. I am also a lifestyle enthusiast and a big food lover. Among my many interests one of my greatest hopes in life is to live in a world where mental health has more awareness.
Happy to be collaborating with Sabrina and discussing mental health. A topic that has been greatly talked about among us young people recently.
I realised how different it was here I panicked. The people, the food, lack of culture I was actually scared tbh lol. It took me a long time to adjust and adapt. I started to miss my old life so much I would get super emotional. It was extremely hard to talk to people. I mean I did a lot of unnecessary thinking that put so many thoughts in my head which made it impossible to make friends.
Sabrina’s first job was at a Doctors office, where customer service is key. As much as it was a great experience, Sabrina would find herself getting sweaty hands and an increased heart rate. After developing a good relationship with her boss, her doctor became her doctor. After a while the doctor would notice small changes in my mood throughout the day and decided to talk to me after a few months.
I didn’t understand what depression was and why it was happening to me. How did I manage to develop social anxiety after being popular in high school, seriously who is this person. He diagnosed me with major depression and social phobia and referred me to a therapist. I think seeing the word MAJOR was a suffocating experience. I felt very closed in after that and so my battle begun.
I identified with a lot of the feelings and experiences that I was watching people talk about. The more I have looked into anxiety, the more I realise that I have had anxiety for as long as I can remember. However it was a hell of a lot easier to suppress when I was in school and college/high school. I had no idea what anxiety was and I had way too many distractions at school to even notice my anxiety.
Sabrina: Being able to share my experiences with many of you that suffer from the same or other mental issues that may need some encouragement. You are not alone.
Me: I now know what it is that has been weighing me down. The best way to deal with something is to know what it is that you’re dealing with. Knowing what anxiety is and what steps I need to take in order to manage it better is a huge relief. A huge scary relief.
Sabrina: Sabrina understands the everyday battle that comes with managing our mental health, and has tried several different methods to help reduce the symptoms of anxiety and depression. Positive and motivational videos, surrounding yourself with positive people being some if the things Sabrina focuses on.
One of the biggest thing is self acclamation, putting more love and praise towards myself. I spend a lot of time researching and understanding my moods and how to prevent situations from escalating. I think learning my personality and smiling more with confidence helped me a lot. I make conversations, and travel more to find myself so I can better understand me. New interest, making small changes to my daily routine and thinking habits has helped tremendously also helps with perspective.
Sabrina: Social Phobia, Anxiety and Depression.
Me: The over thinking and second guessing has made me feel really hesitant to do anything that makes me feel any type of discomfort. Surrounded by people who see my potential and all the good things that I can achieve, but not being able to see that within myself Is hard. It’s difficult to explain why I have this lack of self belief to anyone, and even more difficult to admit. Everyday there’s the constant feeling of “keeping up appearance” and putting on a smile.
Social Life: My social life was shit (pardon my French) but my social life was so horrible I barely had friends and it wasn’t because people weren’t approaching me it was just me being able to hold a conversation. The sweaty hands, heart racing, head pounding and questions running through my head. Will they like me or things I like? Would I be the type of friend they would want to hang out with? So many silly things and even to this day I struggle a little with approaching people but I really worked on it.
Relationships: I think this is the second complicated thing to deal with because it’s extremely hard to communicate to someone who’s doesn’t suffer from anxiety. I’d say my anxiety has definitely made me identify with being an introvert and in cases it’s hard to be open and be able to share things without feeling like that person is constantly judging you. There’s so many worrisome thoughts that anxiety can cause putting myself in a very bad mental state. Overthinking the worst in situations causes fear of being in future relationships. This is practically a work in progress. I recently got out of a breakup I might do a topic on breakups who knows (lol)
Work : This one I know a lot of people can relate to. Who’s had the Bubble guts when you’re heading to work constantly thinking you’re gonna walk into chaos? Well I have! It’s not fun. I mean I work with kids for crying out loud it’s a fun and exciting job might be the best job I’ve had but I still get anxious thinking the same destructive things.
Then it came to a point where it was frustrating and I thought by taking maybe more than prescribed It would make me feel better mood wise and that practically was an overdose. I took medicine on and off for a few years and trust me when I say that sometimes medicine isn’t for everyone. I’m not telling anyone you don’t need it, but sometimes not everyone will react the same to a medication.
Sabrina: Talk about it, it can be your family, your friends, a teacher find someone you trust. Talking about it is the first step!
Work environments can be very harsh, so employers also need to know how to identify people with mental health issues and help make them feel comfortable.
Sabrina: Friends definitely! Talking about my mental issues and others relating to it has helped make things and communicating a lot easier.